Are you a new nurse feeling overwhelmed? If so, this post is for you!
So you’ve just started your new job as a new graduate nurse. You have a great preceptor, you like your unit, and your manager seems pretty cool. But you dread going to work. You get report and you’re already an hour behind. You’re already an overwhelmed nurse. There are so many things to do right this second that you shut down. You can’t do this. It’s too much. You struggle through each day, just trying to get to the end of the shift. You are elated for days off. You dread going back. Is this really what you signed up for? Will this EVER end?
There is no shame in being a struggling new grad nurse. Being a new nurse is very overwhelming. Starting a new job is tough already, let alone an entirely new role with much more responsibility that ultimately puts you in charge of the life and safety of other people. But, no pressure, right?
Getting through nursing school is an exhausting journey, and many of us anticipate feeling prepared starting out with that first job right out of school. However, once we get to there, we feel a sinking reality check: We’re not nearly as prepared as we thought we would be.
Countless questions … feelings of inadequacy … a million new processes to learn … dozens of people to meet … and all of a sudden there is a vulnerable patient right in front of you who expects you to know it all.
While it may seem like an impossible place to grow from, I can tell you that you can, and you will. But, rather than focus on being the best at starting IVs, BFFs with the doctors, or knowing every fact about every med, we need to take a different approach…
4 Tips to Curb Feelings of Overwhelm as a New Nurse
Growing from a green nursing student to a confident and competent autonomous nurse takes time, patience, and grace. It’s a slow-burn journey, not some theoretical light switch that gets flipped from off to on once you legally can write RN behind your name.
I walked through this over a decade ago, and the process of becoming competent entailed many unexpected steps that I hope to impart to you and make your journey smoother (and hopefully a lot less hard on yourself than I was!) I was not prepared for the intense feelings of overwhelm and anxiety that accompanied being a new nurse.
Therefore, let’s discuss a few practical steps you can take that will help you decrease these often overwhelming feelings of incompetence so that you can truly focus on what’s most important: How to become a better nurse with each shift.
#1 – Recalibrate Your Expectations From Nursing School
I had this mentality all throughout nursing school that if I just buckled down, did what they told me, checked off all the right boxes and passed all the tests that I would be ready and prepared to excel as a new graduate nurse. I assumed that the entirety of nursing school was preparing me to enter the workforce fully trained, and that orientation at my first job would essentially consist of being shown around the unit and I’d be off on my merry way to care for my patients by myself.
In clinical, I observed all of these nurses who appeared to be flying solo and working well by themselves with their patients. I assumed that if I asked people for help, that meant I was inadequate and not excelling. This was worst-case scenario in my mind. I needed to impress. I needed to wow everyone. I needed the grumpy nurse to love me. I needed to say the perfect thing to the patient consumed in grief. I needed to be the best. All-encompassing feelings of inadequacy wasn’t supposed to be part of the picture.
When I started that first job, I feel like such an impostor. I felt like I was flying under the radar, just praying that no one would ask me a question I didn’t know the answer to.
About 3-4 weeks into my residency program, I realized I wasn’t alone. Literally everyone felt like this.
After talking with many nursing administrators over the years, I can confidently tell you that learned that nursing leadership does not expect that of their new grads either.
Therefore, I really want to encourage you to examine what you genuinely expect from yourself.
What does your brain assign as a successful performance in this job? Write it down. (Seriously, writing things down externalizes it and gets you out of your own head for a moment!)
If I were to do this exercise back in 2010 when I graduated, this is what my list would have looked like: I don’t want to make ANY mistakes, I want to be the best nurse on the unit, I want to be the favorite of every physician, I want everyone to love me, I want to know all of the meds, I want to get done with my tasks early every shift.
Next, I want you to listen to this podcast episode where I sit down with two nursing leaders as they pull back the veil and give you insider info on their genuine expectations. Then, I want you to ask yourself if what you expect from yourself is realistic.
While it’s admirable to have lofty goals, if they’re not grounded in reality you’re essentially just setting yourself up to fail constantly. It will be impossible to win, and this will undermine your attempts to curb feelings of overwhelm. There is no badge of honor here for whomever is meanest to themselves. This is a terrible place to be mentally as you learn a complex job.
Sometimes, we need to get out of our own way.
One step isn’t going to cure feelings of inadequacy, but by recalibrating our expectations of ourselves, we certainly can make it a much more hospitable environment for your professional growth.
#2 – When Feelings of Inadequacy Bubble Up, Push Back On Them
In my early twenties, I heard a psychologist say something that really hit me hard: “Just because you feel something doesn’t mean it’s true.”
Wait… what? I thought that feeling something strongly was evidence of truth?! Oh, how wrong I was.
Feelings can help provide important information, but feelings themselves are not facts. This can be hard to reconcile when you’re caught deep in your feelings, but it’s an important truth.
Wise decision making considers feelings, but is not solely guided by them.
Therefore, if you feel like a terrible nurse, it doesn’t mean you are. Try to change that from “I am a terrible nurse,” to “Right now, in this moment, I feel like a terrible nurse.”
With all of the pressure and complex emotions that come up during this really challenging journey, it can be tough to make sense of things. So, the first step is to identify when you feel like this. Simply saying to yourself, “I feel really inadequate right now,” is powerful. Giving words to feelings and experiences helps externalize them and therefore get control over them.
Then, remind yourself that you’re on a tough journey and doing the best that you can.
Right now, I feel really inadequate. Every new nurse feels like this. I am not alone. I’m choosing to focus on getting better every shift, not being perfect. I can do this.
Remind yourself of this repeatedly.
- When wake up in the morning (or evening, if you’re a night shifter!)
- When you’re getting report and start to think, “I can’t do this”
- When you’re going in to talk to your grumpy patient
- When you’re about to page the notoriously rude PA
- When you miss an important order
- When you’re balancing 7 tasks at once
The more you re-frame this as it comes up, the easier it is for your brain to go to a healthier place during these moments. (This is called neuroplasticity.)
With the first tip, I mentioned getting out of our own way. This takes it a step further by helping you move forward.
#3 – Focus on the Baby Steps in Front of You
It never fails. You clock in, and somehow you’re already 2 hours behind. A patient is already late for surgery. One has a med due in 90 seconds. Someone has to pee, and another person’s ride is here and wants to be discharged NOW.
Phew, what a way to start a shift!
It can be easy to come against the feelings of overwhelm and shut down. We doubt how we can get through the next med pass, let alone the entire shift!
My advice: Zero-in on the small steps in front of you
Let’s not think about clocking out 2 hours late right now. Let’s focus on delegating getting that patient to the bathroom and finding out what the hold up is in the OR. Next, we’ll graciously remind the patient who wants to be discharged that the physician has to enter discharge orders and impress upon him or her that you will prioritize getting them out the door the moment they come through. Finally, we know that we’ve got some buffer time with meds so we’re not going to worry about the one that’s due right now and we will get to that once the other stuff is addressed.
When you can re-focus on the small steps in front of you, it makes a large challenge seem much more doable.
#4 – Identify YOUR Priorities
Many people will act like absolutely everything is a priority right this very second (from therapy, to management, to the doctor, to the PA, to radiology tech, to the family member..), but you as the nurse must look at your task list and prioritize everyone’s priorities.
Everything is a priority to everyone, I need to decide what is a priority for me right now. I am the nurse, the common denominator. I see the big picture. What needs to be done right now?
I feel like a lot of a shift is reassuring people and calming them down because things don’t happen as quickly as they want them to. It is 100% okay to make people wait, when appropriate. You’re the nurse, your the one whose time is absolutely precious. Now, I’m not saying other people’s time is not, but you are the gatekeeper for your entire patient load and can only do one thing at a time for each of them.
Remember: You get to dictate the order in which you will complete tasks.
At the beginning of my career, I thought I had to do everything one everyone else’s timetable. Every time someone came to me with something they needed or wanted, I thought I had to drop everything and immediately address it. And these requests are so frequent that your entire shift could just go from someone else’s need to someone else’s need and you’d never sit down.
But these people don’t know what you have to document, tasks you’re required to complete, and all of the assessments and monitoring you’re responsible for. They see their need only. They don’t make a request from you with full knowledge of what you’re facing.
This isn’t like Only you know all the things you need to get done for your entire patient load in the next 1, 2, 4, and 12 hours. You can make the call of what is now the priority (unless there is a legit drop everything emergency).
Sample talking points
- I hear that you need _______ right now and I will address that as soon as I finish with this priority. Thank you for bringing that to my attention.
- Thanks for letting me know, unfortunately I’m dealing with a few time sensitive tasks right now. Once I get my head above water with those, I’ll circle back with you.
- Unfortunately, right now is not a doable time for me. I’m in the middle of a few important tasks, but can address that as soon as possible.
- Sorry, right now I’m tied up with a few tasks but this is definitely important to me. Can we bump this to [suggest new time frame]?
It feels awkward and weird to essentially tell people no or not right now, but it’s a very necessary still to develop as a nurse. Otherwise, you won’t make headway on your responsibilities and will find yourself impossibly behind at the end of the shift.
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To manage feelings of overwhelm as you navigate this massive transition, remember to:
- Recalibrate your expectations to something that is realistic, no idealistic
- Remember that feelings of overwhelm are not evidence of truth; they are a natural byproduct of this complex learning process
- Focus on the immediate small steps you can take; allow this to guide your actions
- Ensure you are addressing your priorities for your unique patient load and learn to graciously tell people “No,” or “Not right now”
- Guide to Overcoming Impostor Syndrome for New Nurses – PDF download
- For The Anxious Nurse: Tips For Nurses Who Struggle With Anxiety – Blog post
- Time Management Tips For New Nurses – Podcast episode