I’m a New Nurse Scared to Go to Work: 4 Tips For the Overwhelmed New Grad

by | Mar 12, 2024 | New Nurse, New Nurse Featured, Time Management | 16 comments

Are you a new nurse feeling overwhelmed? If so, this post is for you!

So you’ve just started your new job as a new graduate nurse. You have a great preceptor, you like your unit, and your manager seems cool. But you dread going to work. You get report, and you’re already an hour behind. You’re already overwhelmed. There are so many things to do right this second that you shut down.

You can’t do this. It’s too much. You struggle through each day, just trying to get to the end of the shift. You are elated for days off, but you dread going back. Is this really what you signed up for? Will this ever end? Let’s discuss what to do if you are a new nurse scared to go to work.

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There is no shame in being a struggling new grad nurse, but being a new nurse is very overwhelming. Starting a new job is tough already, let alone an entirely new role with much more responsibility that ultimately puts you in charge of the life and safety of other people. But no pressure, right?

Getting through nursing school is an exhausting journey, and many of us anticipate feeling prepared to start out with that first job right out of school. However, once we get there, we feel a sinking reality check: We’re not nearly as prepared as we thought we would be.

Countless questions … feelings of inadequacy … a million new processes to learn … dozens of people to meet … and all of a sudden, there is a vulnerable patient right in front of you who expects you to know it all.

While it may seem like an impossible place to grow from, I can tell you that you can and will. But rather than focusing on being the best at starting IVs, BFFs with the doctors, or knowing every fact about every medication, we need to take a different approach.

4 Tips to Curb Feelings of Overwhelm as a New Nurse

Growing from a new nurse scared to go to work to a confident and competent autonomous nurse takes time, patience, and grace. It’s a slow-burn journey, not some theoretical light switch that gets flipped from off to on once you legally can write RN behind your name.

I walked through this myself over a decade ago, and the process of becoming competent entailed many unexpected steps that I hope to impart to you and make your journey smoother (and hopefully a lot less hard on yourself than I was!) I was not prepared for the intense feelings of overwhelm and anxiety that accompanied being a new nurse.

Therefore, let’s discuss a few practical steps to help you decrease these often overwhelming feelings of incompetence so that you can truly focus on what’s most important: how to become a better nurse with each shift.

#1 – Recalibrate Your Expectations From Nursing School

I had this mentality throughout nursing school that if I just buckled down, did what they told me, checked off ✅ all the right boxes, and passed all the tests, I would be ready and prepared to excel as a new graduate nurse.

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I assumed that nursing school was preparing me to enter the workforce fully trained, and that orientation at my first job would essentially consist of being shown around the unit and I’d be off on my merry way to care for my patients by myself.

In clinical, I saw all of these nurses who appeared to be flying solo and working well by themselves with their patients. I assumed that if I asked people for help, that meant I was inadequate and not excelling.

This was the worst-case scenario in my mind. I needed to impress. I needed to wow everyone. I needed the grumpy nurse to love me. I needed to say the perfect thing to the patient, consumed in grief. I needed to be the best. All-encompassing feelings of inadequacy weren’t supposed to be part of the picture.

When I started that first job, I felt like such an impostor. I felt like I was flying under the radar, just praying that no one would ask me a question I didn’t know the answer to.

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About three or four weeks into my residency program, I realized I wasn’t alone. Literally, everyone felt like this.

After talking with many nursing administrators over the years, I can confidently tell you that learned that nursing leadership does not expect that of their new grads either.

Therefore, I really want to encourage you to examine what you genuinely expect from yourself.

What does your brain consider a successful performance in this job? Write it down. (Seriously, writing things down externalizes them and gets you out of your own head for a moment!)

If I were to do this exercise back in 2010 when I graduated, this is what my list would have looked like:

  • I don’t want to make ANY mistakes
  • I want to be the best nurse on the unit
  • I want to be the favorite of every physician
  • I want everyone to love me
  • I want to know all of the meds
  • I want to get done with my tasks early every shift

Next, I want you to listen to this podcast episode, in which I sit down with two nursing leaders as they pull back the veil and give you insider info on their genuine expectations. Then, I want you to ask yourself if your expectations are realistic.

While it’s admirable to have lofty goals, if they’re not grounded in reality, you’re setting yourself up for constant failure. This isn’t a great headspace.

It will be impossible to win, and this will undermine your attempts to curb feelings of overwhelm. There is no badge of honor here for whomever is meanest to themselves. This is a terrible place to be mentally as you learn a complex job.

Sometimes, we need to get out of our own way.

One step isn’t going to cure feelings of inadequacy, but by recalibrating our expectations of ourselves, we can make it a much more hospitable environment for your professional growth. After all, your goal as a new nurse scared to go to work is to be able to enjoy your job and not fear your shifts.

#2 – When Feelings of Inadequacy Bubble Up, Push Back On Them

In my early twenties, I heard a psychologist say something that hit me hard: “Just because you feel something doesn’t mean it’s true.”

Wait… what? I thought that feeling something strongly was evidence of truth?! Oh, how wrong I was.

Feelings can help provide important information, but feelings themselves are not facts. This can be hard to reconcile when you’re caught deep in your feelings, but it’s an important truth.

Wise decision-making considers feelings but is not solely guided by them.

Therefore, it doesn’t mean you are if you feel like a terrible nurse. Try to change that from “I am a terrible nurse” to “Right now, in this moment, I feel like a terrible nurse.”

With all of the pressure and complex emotions during this challenging journey, it can be tough to make sense of things. So, the first step is to identify when you feel like this. Simply saying to yourself, “I feel inadequate right now,” is powerful. Giving words to feelings and experiences helps externalize them and, therefore, gain control over them.

Then, remind yourself that you’re on a tough journey and doing your best.

Right now, I feel really inadequate. Every new nurse feels like this. I am not alone. I’m choosing to focus on getting better every shift, not being perfect. I can do this.

So, if you’re a new nurse scared to go to work, remind yourself of this repeatedly.

  • When you wake up in the morning (or evening, if you’re a night shifter!)
  • When you’re getting report and start to think, “I can’t do this”
  • When you’re going in to talk to your grumpy patient
  • When you’re about to page the notoriously rude PA
  • When you miss an important order
  • When you’re balancing 7 tasks at once

The more you re-frame this as it comes up, the easier it is for your brain to go to a healthier place during these moments. (This is called neuroplasticity.)

With the first tip, I mentioned getting out of our own way. This takes it a step further by helping you move forward.

#3 – Focus on the Baby Steps in Front of You

For the new nurse scared to go to work, it never fails. You clock in, and somehow, you’re already two hours behind. A patient is already late for surgery. One has a med due in 90 seconds. Someone has to pee, and another person’s ride is here, and he or she wants to be discharged NOW.

Phew, what a way to start a shift!

It can be easy to come against feelings of being overwhelmed and shut down. We doubt how to get through the next med pass, let alone the entire shift!

My advice: Zero in on the small steps in front of you.

Let’s not think about clocking out 2 hours late right now. Let’s focus on delegating getting that patient to the bathroom and finding out what the hold-up is in the OR. Next, we’ll graciously remind the patient who wants to be discharged that the physician has to enter discharge orders and impress upon him or her that you will prioritize getting them out the door the moment they come through. Finally, we know that we’ve got some buffer time with meds, so we’re not going to worry about the one that’s due right now, and we will get to that once the other stuff is addressed.

When you can re-focus on the small steps in front of you, it makes an enormous challenge seem much more doable.

#4 – Identify YOUR Priorities

Many people will act like everything is a priority right this very second (from therapy to management, to the doctor, to the PA, to radiology tech, to the family member), but you, as the nurse, must look at your task list and prioritize everyone’s priorities.

Everything is a priority to everyone, I need to decide what is a priority for me right now.  I am the nurse, the common denominator. I see the big picture. What needs to be done right now?  

I feel like a lot of a shift is reassuring people and calming them down because things don’t happen as quickly as they want them to.  It is 100% okay to make people wait, when appropriate. You’re the nurse, you’re the one whose time is absolutely precious. Now, I’m not saying other people’s time is not, but you are the gatekeeper for your entire patient load and can only do one thing at a time for each of them.

Remember: You get to dictate how you will complete tasks.

At the beginning of my career, I thought I had to do everything on everyone else’s timetable. Every time someone came to me with something they needed or wanted, I thought I had to drop everything and immediately address it. And these requests are so frequent that your entire shift could just go from someone else’s need to someone else’s need and you’d never sit down.

But these people don’t know what you have to document, the tasks you’re required to complete, and all of the assessments and monitoring you’re responsible for. They see their need only. They don’t make a request from you with full knowledge of what you’re facing.

Only you know all the things you need to get done for your entire patient load in the next 1, 2, 4, and 12 hours. You can make the call about what is now the priority (unless there is a legitimate drop-everything emergency).

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Sample talking points for the new nurse scared to go to work

  • I hear that you need _______ right now, and I will address that as soon as I finish with this priority.  Thank you for bringing that to my attention.
  • Thanks for letting me know. Unfortunately, I’m dealing with a few time-sensitive tasks right now. Once I get my head above water with those, I’ll get back to you.
  • Unfortunately, right now is not a feasible time for me. I’m in the middle of a few important tasks, but I can address them as soon as possible.
  • I’m sorry. Right now, I’m tied up with a few tasks, but this is definitely important to me. Can we bump this to [suggest new time frame]?

It feels awkward and weird to tell people no or not right now essentially, but it’s a very necessary skill to develop as a nurse. Otherwise, you won’t make headway on your responsibilities and will find yourself behind at the end of the shift.

And if you need some tips on how to kindly exit conversations ➡️ check out this post.

New Nurse Scared to Go to Work: Final Thoughts

To manage feelings of overwhelm as you navigate this massive transition, remember to:

  1. Recalibrate your expectations to something realistic, not idealistic
  2. Remember that feelings of overwhelm are not evidence of truth; they are a natural byproduct of this complex learning process
  3. Focus on the immediate small steps you can take; allow this to guide your actions
  4. Ensure you are addressing your priorities for your unique patient load and learn to graciously tell people “No,” or “Not right now”

These fears will dissipate as your familiarity with your unit and routines increases. Trust me, you’ll be a charge nurse before you know it!

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    1. Ali

      Thank you so much for this! I just started my first job as an RN 2 weeks ago. I was beginning to wonder when that glorious day would come that I would feel capable of actually handling things on my own. This helped. It’s nice to be reminded that it’s all a part of the process, that it gets better. Nice to know that feeling overwhelmed is normal and that it doesn’t mean I chose the wrong career. I’ll get it. Day by day, week by week, month by month… and year by year. I am capable. I am competent. I can do this! THANK YOU, FreshRN ❤

      • Kati Kleber

        So glad this was helpful! I hope the days are getting better!

    2. Frustrated New RN

      I just linked over to this blog post from facebook, I needed this today. I’m a new nurse on a PICU and you described perfectly my love for my unit but the dread I feel going to work. What I have the hardest time dealing with is the person who says you “haven’t done hygiene care (insert small issue here) on your new admit” (that we just stabilized and got settled) ignoring all the priorities that were addressed and I feel defeated.

      • Kati Kleber

        That is SUCH A HEADACHE!!! Gah. I felt like that too, even into my career. Unfortunately, there are nurses who care about the little tasks more than the big picture.. who can’t see that while hygiene wasn’t done, you got them intubated and their BP under control. It can be so hard to feel defeated after a long shift and getting a response like that. Those people can’t see the priorities, they just care about tasks, which is a bad sign. I started having to detach myself from those people and giving their words very little power in my mind. I started to only care if the nurses I respected and who knew what was the priority were like “hey you forgot to do ______” – then I’d allow myself to feel defeated. And whenever someone who was nit-picking would say, “So you didn’t do oral hygiene on your unstable admission?” I would confidently says “Nope!” I hope this helps!!!

    3. Jenny

      Hi, i enjoyed reading this blog, I can relate to it a lot as far as prioritizing and time management. I graduated in January of 2016 but didnt start working until December of 2016 in a telemetry unit with only 6 weeks of orientation (not a new grad program). My preceptor was not the greatest to teach me the details and the most important things to know. Everyday I feel scared and dread going to work because im afraid of something happening and not knowing what to do. The biggest problem I have is time management, as much as I try to get better at it, it always fails me and cant never leave work on time. I feel that I am always so focused in trying to stay on top of my game to avoid falling behind instead of paying attention to the most important things which is reading new diagnostic results or digging more into the patients H&P in order to connect the pieces and understand things better about my patients. I also feel pressured in learning/knowing everything because we get sent to ICU within 6 months of employment. All these things have me thinking, and at times I feel Im better off quitting my job to avoid making mistakes and losing my license.

      • Jessica

        Your not alone… I know exactly where your coming from.

    4. Jessica

      I have been in neuro ICU as a new grad RN myself for three months now. Everyday I dread going to work and use to have panic attacks before work. As soon as I build the confidence that I’m doing good, I get knocked down by a critique from my preceptor. Last shift I felt like I finally “got it” than when next shift came on they noticed a change In baseline that I didn’t and I had to rush my patient off to surgery (an hour after my shift ended). Being a new grad SUCKS and in the ICU in a level 1 trauma it seems there really never is an “easy day.” I’ve had to anxiety meds to help me cope and it barely helps.. I’m praying for the day I finally do “get it” and my days go smoother

    5. Ellie

      I am so happy I found this post and completely agree with the comments above: it’s been hard. I just keep thinking that after a few more months things will suddenly click and I won’t feel like I’m under water. I’m a new grad on a progressive unit and while orientation left me with a bit of confidence, I’m currently second guessing EVERYTHING. Every car ride home my mind is racing trying to think if I forgot anything or if I could’ve done something better. The ride to work is picturing the worst case scenarios that may lay ahead. Really, I just want my peers to trust that I can do the job and won’t think of me as THAT new nurse. It’s reassuring to know that others are having similar experiences, we all have to start somewhere I guess!

    6. Quinn

      It’s really too bad that we all feel like this. I have a great team behind me, that I really love and I know they will always help when I need it. But so many times I don’t even know WHEN or HOW to ask for help. Things seem to come by so fast I can’t even grasp WHAT I need to do for someone. Especially doctors and when someone calls from outside the unit. They speak and use acronyms that I have never heard of. As someone coming from completely outside of the healthcare field into nursing it is incredibly intimidating and frankly terrifying at times. I want to be safe for my patients and do the very best job that I can, and sometimes I’m just not sure what that means. I’m determined to do this well, and posts like this with comments from others going through the same thing buoys my confidence and reinforces that we are ALL new and can only expect so much from ourselves, and all those little extra tasks and distractions are sometimes just that…extras that we do once the core interventions are done. Thanks for the blog and to everyone that comments. Together we can conquer this!

    7. Kathleen Christensen

      Thank you so much for posting this! Basically your description in the first paragraph is totally how I have been feeling as a New Grad in the ICU. I’m almost 8 months in now, and the anxiety has been subsiding but is still there.

      I also recently switched to day shift, which is a whole new beast so these time management tips are very helpful. I’m really praying that I reach the day I want to be going to work in the morning, but I’m not quite there yet. So grateful to hear others feel this way and these feelings are normal.

    8. Beth

      I really needed to read this today. I’m a new grad on a very busy GI PCU and am constantly feeling incompetent in my job. It’s as if I’ve been dropped off I a foreign country and barely speak the language! Time management is hard for me as well and it feels like it’s going to take forever before my confidence in this improves. Thank you so much for encouragement that it will get better!

      • Kati Kleber, MSN RN CCRN-K

        No problem – I am glad it was encouraging! I’ve got some podcasts that touch on confidence building (FreshRN.com/podcast). I also have a guide for new nurses on impostor syndrome. By addressing that, we can really dig into building our confidence with a firm foundation and healthy motivators for growth. It’s a freebie at: https://kleber-media-llc.ck.page/527888297e

    9. Jo

      I’m a new grad, I’ve been working in a step-down cardiac-medical unit for 4 months now. At first, I would freak out about the small details, and go home second guessing my every move. I came to learn that it’s the big picture that matters, and that you’re probably the only one freaking out about these minor details. Use your critical thinking skills and your gut feeling, and if you need help, ask. Everything will be okay!

    10. Luzviminda Cantrell

      Thanks for sharing all these experiences and feelings by new nurses . I thought I am the only one getting to these and in a wrong direction of my career ,that most dumb and slow nurse . I always go home in anxiety and often in my dreams having all these pictures of the unit , with palpitations thinking of how I will survive .It is difficult to assess what do I need to know that I do not know . They ask me to ask questions that I need to know which is suppose to be just tell me everything that you are doing and why because I might have the knowledge but it might be partial and by telling me this and that is reinforcing. I am afraid asking a question which outside what I am there for . Thank you for opening your site that help us overcome our struggles and giving us tips and guide.

    11. Joyce Dev

      So glad I found your YouTube and your website. How I can relate to all of what you have here wish it existed in 1983 when I graduated as a brand new nurse. I made the ultimate mistake or at least I was allowed to make the mistake of working in a step down to elementary unit right out of nursing school.FAILURE!!I left Nursing 14 months later I was being paid 15 K a year got it. That’s just a green healthcare administration doubled my income and then doubled my income again but here I am at 61 years old taking an RN refresher course and starting my BSN. No I don’t really wanna go back to bedside nursing at 61 years old, but would love to know if you do private consults or if you have any other content to help guide me how to re-enter the Nursing world. Thank you.


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